I Can Be WRONG
Rid Egoffirmations
“I accept when I am wrong because that only makes me strong.” ”
What's the matter? Cat got your tongue? Yes, this is how people suddenly feel when they realize they are wrong yet still experience significant anxiety and hold trouble acknowledging it. We are not yet referring to acknowledging it to others (that is the second step), but to openly note, view, and admit it to yourself first is an inner milestone you must and will be happy you achieved.
RID EGOFFIRMATIONS
Why is it so challenging to say, "OOPS, that was my bad," or "I was wrong?" Well, for starters, it is all about our EGO. Many of us walk around all day long carrying an enormous heavy yet invisible sign saying, "I will not let you hurt my EGO." Envision you are holding this sign all day, and it's becoming tiresome. Your arms are falling weak; your shoulders are getting tense. You cannot perform your daily activities as you are multi-tasking and diverted by the 'EGO' sign you persist in holding up. Yet your mind will stay firm on continuing to hold the ludicrous sign regardless of its many and undesirable ramifications.
Society has influenced us diligently to protect our ego through cultural expectations corporate expectations, social media arrogance and the list of false derivations continues. All these insecurities are covered with a big bandage called 'EGO.'
So let down your guard, put down that foolish, unnecessary weighty sign. Learn to accept that you can be mistaken and acknowledge that you can't possibly know everything or that you can't possibly always be right!
Seriously aren't you tired of being a preacher and a prosecutor? Rather than investing energy in false provocations and imminent anxiety and anger tantrums, learn to accept, 'YOU CAN BE WRONG.'
“To make mistakes or be wrong is human. To admit those mistakes shows you have the ability to learn, and are growing wiser.”
POSITIVE DEFFIRMATIONS
Scale back and recall your past disagreements and those challenging times you stood for your point of view. How much energy did it cost you? Did you earn respect from your opposition? Why do you invest much time in claiming to be right?
What if there was evidence you were wrong the entire time?
So how do we attain self-growth in regards to being WRONG?
It's not an actual word (not yet ;p), though I constructed a strategy to repeat and practice acts of accountability to myself. I call it Positive Deffirmations.
I can be WRONG, I can be WRONG, I can be WRONG.
Such positive deffirmations allow us to penetrate that vicious 'EGO' barrier and open ourselves up to consider that we cannot possibly know it all or be right all the time. Many of our views and morale is based on our upbringing and experiences. Hence because we witnessed such behavior frequently, our brain took mental notes that these behaviors are okay and are considered the norm. Alas, it is not your fault as the term goes, 'monkey sees, monkey do,' or our' fight to flight' instantly mode kicks in.
Repeating the possibility that you can be wrong will bring you into the habit of new realizations that adjusting your perceptions from new evidence isn't troublesome at all; moreover, it's a sign of intelligence and inner growth.
Learn and practice to relax. To teach yourself daily how to grow into a more well-grounded healthy individual.
Add ‘Deffirmations’ to your daily mix of Meditations, Affirmations, or any Validations. Telling yourself you are loved and worth it is GREAT, though what good is it if you are indeed an asshole and you grow old oblivious to the pain you established on many throughout those years, and at that moment, you realize the most heavily weighted infliction will be on yourself.
Secondly, your body language displays how you think and feel if you believe you are right; you will stand firm, present frustration in your facial expression, and impatience in your overall body language. You give off the vibe of “hurry and finish what you have to say so I can just say what I want.”
TAKE AWAY
If you consider you could be wrong and be patient to hear or see the facts in why you were wrong, firstly your body language will be calmer, your facial expression will demonstrate more warmth and understanding, this display of patience will lead the opposition party to notice that you are mature, ready and open to listen to them attentively.
When an individual feels you are genuinely listening or being heard, it will calm the tone in their voice, bring order to the conversation, alleviate the negativity vibe, and kill any immediate animosity at the moment. All these are excellent reasons for you to be more open to the possibility that you too 'CAN BE WRONG.'
“To live a creative life we must first lose the fear of being wrong.”
Be patient and be open. The two leading causes of denying you could be wrong are:
Our ‘EGO’ cannot accept that someone else is more intellectual, wiser, or knowledgeable. Let this go because only you can become more intelligent, wiser, and more knowledgeable by listening.
We are challenged emotionally, and our minds and brains feel inferior. So our first response is to protect it from the shame of letting others know we are emotionally weak. When in fact, this only makes us look more helpless. Be vulnerable, speak your current emotion out loud, ‘say oh boy I feel dumb right now, you were right.’ It is more than okay not to be right all the time. Seriously are you exhausted of protecting false emotions or putting on a facade not to feel stupid? Isn't that more foolish? You are better than that. Be one with your feelings, so you become well-grounded and trust that you will become confident in saying what you feel.
Sometimes, I am Wrong,
