Sorry, Please
& Thank You
“Please, thank you, and sorry are three words so important in our life that we very often forget. They are necessary to maintain healthy relation in every field of life. ”
Although they say words are trivial, we should ignore them and be stronger: let's be realistic. Words are everything; words are how we communicate, read books, interact on social media, extrapolate our passion and desires, build or break relationships.
Additionally, some of us use words, or lack there of that often are painful to others. Intentional or unintentional. It takes a mature person to comprehend that 'Sorry, Please and Thank You,' can indeed alter your life and those around you.
Why is it beneficial to use these three words and use them frequently? Not only are we being polite to the person we are speaking to, but it also serves as a steadfast reminder for ourselves. It evokes gratitude within us when we say thank you for the greatest or smallest of acts. Saying please prompts us to recognize that no one is obligated to do anything. It is an option they make to establish us as a priority, and by saying please, we show that we are not taking them for granted, and we acknowledge that it takes effort on their part.
And saying sorry, well, that is the most significant of them all. It shows that we place our ego aside and bring about a growth of empathy to identify the emotion at play. Regardless if it is not our situation. If you genuinely care for this other person, saying sorry will serve to subdue the pain and resentment built up in any relationship. Additionally, it will establish trust within all involved.
“Proper apologies have three parts: 1) What I did was wrong. 2) I feel bad that I hurt you. 3) How do I make it better?”
Saying sorry can save a broken life.
Every single individual walking this earth bears a pocket full of problems. What is a pain for them may not be a pain for you. Does or should that diminish their emotions? Not. Contemplate the word 'sorry' as an invisible hero that rescues the moment. Living in the present moment is arduously tricky for those that require more profound empathy. Sorry is a liberation word for such individuals. And sorry can alleviate a soul from painful ruminations and distress. Sorry holds diverse forms, from a bandage to a teddy bear hug, a moment in silence, bestowing grief, or even for minute aspect; sorry can free you of various enigmas that exist today. We must stop holding back as if 'sorry' were a treasure locked in a safe for emergency. That would be a dier illusion. Use it frequently, even if you don't understand the situation, yet you love the person whom is feeling sad; you can utter the word sorry; and say, 'I do not wish for you to feel miserable. What can I do to make you feel better?'
Stating sorry and then repeating, rejecting, or reversing the blame game is counterproductive. Do not dilute your honest intent by immediately adding a 'just' 'but' or 'because.' Leave it at sorry, offer a genuine hug, and ask what you can do to make the person you care for feel better. If you seriously admire this person, it shouldn't be difficult. If it is still challenging, then there exist more significant matters that necessitate being dealt with because at that point, the sorry is similar to that of a paddle boat in an ocean, and it will not secure you far. You will ascertain yourself back at square one repeatedly. Say sorry, mean it, and move on without repeating the same mistake over and over. Life is to learn to and grow. Say a sorry that genuinely doctors your growth.
“How would your life change if your actions did all the talking and all you used your mouth for was to say please and thank you.”
I don't like to be appreciated said no one ever.
Do you know how much more loved you would be if you said 'Thank You' and 'Please' all the time? Let me help you with that; a ton more. These two phrases hold the heart of appreciation. So when you give, ‘thanks,’ no matter in any language and the same goes for 'please,' you are essentially telling the person, 'I appreciate you.'
I don't like to be appreciated said no one ever.
It is true; people love to hear appreciation for their kind thoughts and actions. It serves as a sense of gratitude and inspiration for them to continue their thoughtfulness and kind acts.
You can be kind without expecting something in return, although if you did receive or give a thank you, I assure you, you would fall asleep happier. There is nothing more precious than the exchange of kindness between folks.
We've all been through a heck of a lot these preceding years; let's ease emotions and bring kindness back into this world by thanking everyone for the smallest gestures.
Saying ‘please’ is a reflection of who you are. Do you prefer to come off demanding, snobby, authoritative, uneducated, ignominious, or just plain off rude? I would think not. Say please. Say it all the time. No one is obligated to do anything for you. In any relationship, it is invariably a choice to care for one another. I promise you the more you say 'please,' the more they are likely to assist. You do not need to tell anyone to do anything. Please shows that you are respectful, and kind to them and that you possess manners. So Please remember to say ‘Please.’
Fun Fact:
In English, we say these words all the time (hopefully!), and we teach our children them at an early age, but did you ever wonder where these two courtesies originated?
The etymologies of "please" and "thank you" in an unlikely place - a book titled Debt: The First 5,000 Years by David Graeber. Graeber is an anthropologist, and the book goes against conventional wisdom by showing that before there was money, there was debt.
But, on to the words...
Our English "please" is short for the phrase "if you please" and "if it pleases you to do this." It is the same in most European languages (French si il Vous plait, Spanish por favor).
Graeber says that its literal meaning is "you are under no obligation to do this." When someone says, "Would you please hold the door open for me?" you are under no obligation to do so. Well, maybe there is a "social obligation," but this little informal order isn't entirely an order with that please attached to it.
I would not have guessed that the English "thank you" derives from "think. In fitting with Graeber's actual book topic, the original idea was to mean "I will remember what you did for me," and in other languages (Portuguese Obrigado, for example), it is frequently like the English "much obliged," which does imply that "I am in your debt."
The French merci is even more apparent coming from "mercy" (begging for mercy).
Related phrases are "you're welcome," or "it's nothing" (French de rien, Spanish de nada), which suggests that there is no debt.
Graeber points out that in history, "please" and "thank you" only came into common usage with the commercial revolution of the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries and mainly among the middle classes. It became part of the languages of shops and offices and later spread to general usage.
cited* https://whynameitthat.blogspot.com/2013/09/please-and-thank-you.html
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