HOT...HOTTER….FIRE
COLD...COLDER…ICY COLD
Cold-Colder-Bitter
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Cold-Colder-Bitter 〰️
“A cold heart is my protection mechanism. I don’t really feel anything for anyone.”
If you know, you know! Being warm, hot, or on fire was a moment of excitement and happiness. No one wanted to be 'COLD,' at least not back then. Anyone notice that as the season's change, one season seems to become prominent by the day…the bitter cold or, more precisely, the bitter cold attitude. It looks as though in this new unseen era, the mind is convinced to give less warm hugs, less passion for people and sticking around, increased separations statistic, and an unfortunate loss in total warmth of humanity.
Where is this bitter-cold personality stemming from, you ask? Undoubtedly the world has been enduring a constant crisis for as far back as we can presume, though the wrangle of the pandemic and war pushed much of the current population over the edge. With anxiety at its worst, depression population at its peak, and an overwhelming schedule of busy bees, it's become every man for himself. Presently we are seeing cold and sad souls walking in plain sight with guarded hearts inside so cold, fragile, quickly shattered, endangered, and, to be blunt, hard as a rock. Even if that.
So what happened?
Lack of unconditional love
Loss of a loved one
Pressure from relationships, work or school
Major health anxiety
Lack of support or gudiance
Childhood trauma
Isolation
Financial Pressure
Self-Idealistic Expectations
Marriage, Divorce, Kids
Unending Responsibilities
Upbringing by non-empaths
Yes, the list is infinite. So how can we help these individuals or ourselves if we descend into these stemming cold brackets? First and foremost, to acknowledge the situation in its entirety. Because you can not improve in an area, you do not perceive it to exist negatively; it is imperative to know how you can recognize if you or someone you know is a 'Cold-Hearted Person'?
Traits of a ‘Cold Hearted Person’
THEY’RE DISTANT AND DETACHED.
THEY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO EMPATHIZE WITH OTHERS.
THEY ACT SUPERIOR OR ABOVE-IT-ALL
THEY’RE OFTEN UNTRUSTWORTHY AND UNRELIABLE
THEY INTERRUPT OR TALK OVER OTHERS.
THEY’RE MORE LIKELY TO BETRAY OTHERS.
THEY’LL HURT OR HUMILIATE OTHERS IF IT SERVES THEM.
THEY DON’T WASTE TIME ON REGRET (LET ALONE REMORSE).
THEY’RE UNMOVED BY LOVE STORIES AND EMOTIONAL MOVIES.
THEY’RE QUICK TO LEAVE YOU OUT IN THE COLD.
THEY TYPICALLY REMAIN SINGLE.
source* liveboldandbloom.com
How to know you are dealing with a cold-hearted person?
It can be challenging to spot cold-hearted people initially. Luckily, there are a few ways to spot those who are out for themselves.
Those with cold hearts try to keep all facets of their personal life and personality separate and private. They do not desire to communicate details about their life. And in the same manner, they are apathetic to hearing the details of others. It makes it much easier to refrain from developing an attachment to others.
Gaslighting is a psychological term for altering reality to how you want it to be. Cold-hearted people will do anything to manipulate you into submission to their will. If you catch them being deceptive or untruthful, they may try and twist events or words. They will try to make it seem like you're outlandish or don't understand the situation. Over an extended period, this can lead to a lot of self-doubt and anxiety. The critical thing to remember is that you know what is happening in your reality and your memories of events are probably correct.
Cold-hearted people can appear in every aspect of our lives. Not just in the workplace but also our social and family lives. Although they are challenging to deal with, being able to spot a cold-hearted person makes it infinitely easier to figure out a way of making the best out of a harmful situation if they are someone you can't simply cut out.
We can not change anyone except ourselves. Though we can respect ourselves, if you have a cold-hearted person in your life, speak up about your feelings. Don't be submissive. Also, it will help if you empathize with them and understand they do not know how to feel or connect with their soul, though be sure to set your limitations. Do not empathize to the point where you begin to sacrifice your happiness. If the distance helps you stay sane, isolate yourself from their gaslighting.
Though most important, and I truly learned this hard way, all their need for control, manipulation, and gaslighting would generate self-doubt in and increase anxiety. What helped me escape this sorrowful life was digging deep inside and remembering who I really am. To remind me not to believe the falsified information cold-hearted people relayed to me repeatedly. You begin to feel like a hamster on a wheel, and it seems mundane and nerve-wracking with a big shot of self-pity. These people are so good at what they do that they don't even know they are inherently cold.
So I reached deep inside and reminded myself not to believe them and to believe in myself. To remind me daily that I am naturally an empath, a warm and affectionate individual. It also helped me find people in my life similar to myself. The more you practice warmth and receive warmth, the more you love yourself and your surroundings. As you develop strong, the people who live on a facade eventually get bored and look for new targets. Not your problem. Enjoy your life; if cold-hearted people try to hurt you, remember that their imagination is not your reality. Their words and actions are mean, maybe even life-sucking - but stay calm and collected when it happens. Let them embarrass themselves. You continue to be your warm self.
Practicing Warmth Daily,
